Can Relationship Ebooks Actually Help a Relationship?
The divorce rate is getting out of hand. We need to work on improving our current relationships instead of jumping from marriage to marriage. Can relationship Ebooks actually help? The short answer is YES.
Is there a relationship expert or psychologist that can help me with my problem?I have tried ebooks but no use
saddemon26 - March 30th, 2010 at 5:41 pmHonestly it’s prolly my fault more than anybody’s.We had a few problems,ones that I did nothing about to actually fix.I was lazy,and comfortable,and took the most important thing in my life for granted.I wish wish wish wish wiiiiiiiiiiiiish I had done something sooner.I really love this girl with my whole heart,mind,body and soul.I would do ANYTHING to bring her home.She made the choice to leave,yet she is the one who will not stop calling or coming over.I really like that she does this,but I also know she wants to try to be my friend.If I wasn’t so selfish I would do that,but I want more from her.She sleeps in my bed almost every night,but every morning when she leaves,it’s like breaking up with her all over again.I would bleed my last drop of blood,just to make her smile,but I feel she is taking advantage of my love for her,and my undying devotion to her.I wish I knew what to do to bring her back,I would do it in a heartbeat.I have found that telling her how I feel does nothing.Letting her know that I would change anything for her does nothing.Begging for another chance does nothing.Trying to make her jealous kinda gets a reaction,but not enough to make a lick of difference.The only tactic that has not been used is cutting her off from me.I have tried like 4 times,and she just will call over and over until I answer,or just show up at my house at like 5am.I think by cutting her off she may miss me enough to come home to me.She has a new BF already.It wouldn’t take her long because she is just so beautiful,and such a cool person to be around.But this guy doesn’t know her the way I do.Nobody does.Nobody knows me the way she does.I know what makes her happy,and how to take care of her.I know that she isn’t serious about this new guy,and she hasn’t had sex with him,but I’m sooooooooooooo scared of where her heart is.I know she loves me still,and that she truly is "the one" and my immortal soulmate,but that still doesn’t bring her home to me.As I type this I start to get teary(I’m a *****),it’s been almost 2 months,and honestly I’m still just as bad as I was at the very start of all this nightmare.I just don’t know what to do.I treasure every waking moment with her,and even the unwaking moments that I share with her when we sleep together.I know its stalkerish of me,but when she lays beside me,in my arms,I stay awake for hours sometimes,just watching her perfect face sleep,and to try to hold on to her like she is still mine for as long as possible.It really sux because when I do sleep,it’s always the best sleep when I am next to her,but when I wake up,for maybe about 1 second or so,I forget she she belongs to somebody else and it’s like she is home again,so the pain that I feel constantly now washes away for that 1 second,and I actually have peace,but then I remember that she isn’t mine anymore,and I don’t even have the tears to cry about it anymore,I simply die inside instead.I just wish I knew what needed to be done to bring her home to me,and to forget about this new guy once and for all.Any advice would be VERY helpful.I just can’t go thru the rest of my life knowing she is out there somewhere,without me.I feel like if I become her friend,just so that I can still see her,thats all I will ever be to her,and I’m NOT ok with that!I also feel if I cut her off,I’m gonna do it the wrong way and I will lose her forever.THAT CAN’T HAPPEN!I know that every time I have tried to cut her off,she won’t let me.She always makes her way back into my life,lots of times,the very same day.The first time I just didn’t answer the phone all night and then all morning.I had 27 missed calls that day from her.She just showed up at my house at like 6am that day.She still has a key I’m sure,and she tried to take my xbox 360 hostage until I would talk to her.The second time I tried this at work during the day,She called every minute,on the minute,for like 1 whole hour.The she got wise and called my work,and I answered.The third time was just a couple of days ago,when I caught her in a lie about her new BF.She called me at like 5am and told me she really missed me,and just needed to hear my voice.She said I was truly her best friend,and she isn’t sure if she can deal with me not being in her life anymore.Not that she wants to come home,she just wants to make sure I’m there if she needs me I guess.The final time I tried was just yesterday,and she had me back on the phone in about 3 hours.Then she came over last night and stayed the night.We get along so well,and I know we both still love eachother very much,I just don’t know if thats enough to bring her home to me.Sorry about writing this book for you to read,I’m kinda a hopeless romantic,and can go off about this subject for hours and hours.Have you ever been in this situation before? Do you know anybody that has?If you have I have to propose this to you like I have everybody else I have spoke to on this matter.I am willing to offer anybody who can give me the advice that brings her back $1000 worth of credit to best buy.I know thats insane to offer this like it is some sort of contest,but I am out of ideas.I am crazy I guess,but I’m a fool in love,and well funded.
I guess my biggest question is how do I make her miss me enough to come home.How do I cut her off now after I have tried so many times and gave in to her,and how do I do this without making her really mad at me for it.Also and most important to me,will this work?
As in,what do I say,but still be the wonderful man I have been to her so far?
no!
pikapal - March 30th, 2010 at 10:43 pmReferences :
You should just move on with your life. If it was meant to be you will get a chance again.
Exceedling. Good - March 30th, 2010 at 10:45 pmReferences :
You really should go see a psychiatrist asap, that’s who you really need to go see for help with this. For now you should stop seeing or communicating with her completely.
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??Tweedle Dee?? - March 30th, 2010 at 10:47 pmReferences :
Dude. Seriously. NEVER make that kind of offer to anyone on the Internet. Keep and save your money, don’t give it away like that, there are poeple who will be more than willing to take advantage of your vulnerability. And yes, of course we’ve been there; do you think you’re the only one who’s ever fallen in love? LOL!
thisisme - March 30th, 2010 at 10:49 pmAs usual, in relationships, the killer is lack of honest and open communication so once you talk to your girl and the two of you open up stop playing games and be honest about your feelings, all will be well, or as well as it can be for now.
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I’m so sorry that I don’t have a degree in psychiatry. If I did, I would help you for free.
Jodi - March 30th, 2010 at 10:51 pmReferences :
This girl is messing with your emotions. Look at the whole picture. It is very strange that she sleeps in the same bed as you and lives with you, but goes out with other guys and calls you in the wee hours of the morning. She wants the best of both worlds and you’re the one suffering. Does she love you for having a place to lay her head at night or does she love you?!
She’s pulling your heart strings and it seems like she has an agenda. You need to really consider getting her to move out, then you need to change the locks and move on with your life. It will tear you up badly at first, but it is for the best.
Don’t let this bottle up and tear you up so much. Talk it over with someone who relates to you.
There’s so many other girls out there more deserving!
God bless and good luck!
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I’ve been in your exact situation before. The girl I thought was my g/f years ago turned out to already be in a relationship and used me to get a ride to and from the hospital. She blew everything up in my face like it was all my fault, when in hinesight, it was all in her plan. The best therapy I had was talking to my mom (or someone that would listen to me).
Patience paid off and by 25 I found my wife of nearly 7 years!
BSOD - March 30th, 2010 at 10:53 pmYou’ve tried cutting her off and it’s not working, because you clearly love her so much that she can take advantage of you.
Tell her, AND MEAN IT, that if all you’re ever going to get from her is friendship, you don’t want to be friends with her anymore.
Otherwise, she’s going to continue to take advantage of you. Honestly, her desperation to talk to you seems like she’s desperate for you. But she hasn’t told you the truth about her feelings for you, so you need to get some answers. Here are your conditions:
Did she ever tell you why she broke up with you? Why she left? Ask her why she chose to end things if she’s just going to call you every day and make you suffer. Tell her, because it’s true, that she is making you unhappy by teasing you with friendship.
The complication to the situation is the (other) boyfriend. Why does she need him? What does he give her that you don’t?
If she wants to be more, then that’s fine, that’s what you want. If she doesn’t, then she doesn’t and there’s nothing you can do about it. You have two choices if she doesn’t want to be more than your friend. You can stay her friend for the rest of your life (or your friendship – friendships don’t usually last that long) or you can choose to end your friendship with her now and save yourself further hardship. She may come around if she can’t get what she gets from you anymore.
If she refuses to answer any of your questions, tell her you just won’t talk to her until she’s honest with you and mean it. Turn off your phone, or better yet, change your number. Hide anything she could steal in the trunk of your car and sleep with your keys under your pillow. If she comes in your house and isn’t coming to talk to you honestly, throw her out. If this keeps going on, change your lock. Tell her you’ll get a restraining order. If she isn’t honest with you, you’re going to get nowhere. So buck up and no more taking her back.
If you continue to give in, you’re going to get nowhere. If you really want to solve your problem, you’ll threaten her connection to you without giving in. You don’t want to be the wonderful man you’ve been to her so far, because that man is getting abused and heartbroken. You want to be a bully that gets answers, and then you can pick up where you left off.
Lastly, keep in mind, there are other fish in the sea. There are other women that could potentially make you happy. Trust me, she is not the only one, even if it may seem like it right now. And a good deal of these fish probably wouldn’t treat you the way this girl is treating you. You have better chances of happiness elsewhere. No, really. Give it some thought.
rozefyre86 - March 30th, 2010 at 10:55 pmReferences :