What are some good strategies for breaking the pacifier habit? And getting daddy on board with it?
My son is 9.5 months and still uses a pacifier for sleeping and sometimes in the car, although the daycare gives it to him more than I do, and lately we’ve also been giving it to him in the evenings because he’s teething badly.
But next year, the school does not allow them for his age group. I want to start breaking him of it now so that he’s not using it anymore after his first birthday. Does anyone know of some successful techniques?
My son was about 1 year when he stopped using his pacifier at the creche. They just stopped giving it to him one day, when he had had a tantrum and thrown it at his carer. I had never allowed him to enter the creche with one though, he had to give it up before going in, and they had one for him there. He still uses one for sleeping at home though, he is very capable to distinguish between home and creche.
I would suggest that you stop it in the car on your way to the daycare. Tell him he can only use one there for sleeping, and asked them to go along with this rule. Once he has settled into that routine, tell him he can’t have it outside his bedroom – he is probably too young to understand it, but I believe in telling them anyway. I think it is OK for a toddler to have a pacifier at night, so I wouldn’t rush that one for his first birthday, but it is your choice.
Getting his daddy on board is your real problem, because you can’t treat him like a child-LOL.
Good Luck
do what i did and tell him walmart stopped selling them. then oops all of his are missing. i know this sounds kinda mean but it worked rather well for my daughter who is now 7. good luck
vanessa_in_texas - February 9th, 2010 at 2:42 pmReferences :
He is so young that "telling" him things might not work. I would just try to get rid of the daytime one first. Mine uses it for naps and bedtime too. During the day offer a blanket or something else to soothe him to sleep. Maybe rock him or give him a bottle/cup to drink? We rock our guy and then we rocked less and less time.. he has a small soft blanket he holds until he falls asleep which helps. He doesn’t need it any other time.
sunnie_CA - February 9th, 2010 at 3:08 pmReferences :
My son was very attached to his pacifier for longer than yours and the day he turned 18 months my hubby and I decided no more passy. We took all of them and threw them away. I was surprised at how great he did. I figured I would be up all night for 5 days and he would never take another nap. He went right to bed. He asked for it a couple of times and I just said in a playful voice " you don’t need no passy! yucky!" I bet you will be surprised at how easy it will be ifyou just do it. Hope all goes well!
1st time momma - February 9th, 2010 at 3:48 pmReferences :
My son was about 1 year when he stopped using his pacifier at the creche. They just stopped giving it to him one day, when he had had a tantrum and thrown it at his carer. I had never allowed him to enter the creche with one though, he had to give it up before going in, and they had one for him there. He still uses one for sleeping at home though, he is very capable to distinguish between home and creche.
I would suggest that you stop it in the car on your way to the daycare. Tell him he can only use one there for sleeping, and asked them to go along with this rule. Once he has settled into that routine, tell him he can’t have it outside his bedroom – he is probably too young to understand it, but I believe in telling them anyway. I think it is OK for a toddler to have a pacifier at night, so I wouldn’t rush that one for his first birthday, but it is your choice.
Getting his daddy on board is your real problem, because you can’t treat him like a child-LOL.
Good Luck
Mom of 3 year old - February 9th, 2010 at 3:54 pmReferences :
It would be easier to cut down on using it during the day, but very hard on him if he is in daycare and missing you . You need to work with them on finding other ways to calm him if he is upset, especially if he does not really need it when he is with you. Weigh up whether having him upset in daycare is worthwhile – he is quite young. Is this a good time to give it up? I would question any setting which has hard and fast rules about ‘no pacifiers’ for a 1 year old – by that age he will probably be ready to go without it more anyway, and you may be able to reason with him more as he gets older (like the ‘Passy Fairy’ who takes them away and leaves a gift while the child is asleep.) You are his parent, so don’t let any ‘school’ dictate your timetable.
Penelope R - February 9th, 2010 at 4:06 pmReferences :
He is too young I would wate about 3 to 4 months.
Lindsay - February 9th, 2010 at 4:46 pmReferences :
THROW IT AWAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
christinarose24 - February 9th, 2010 at 4:53 pmReferences :
First of all Daddy has to get on board. You just have to throw it away you will have a couple to really bad days but there really is not an easy way out of this. Good luck.
ChristyC - February 9th, 2010 at 5:16 pmReferences :